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The Truth About Mail Order Brides

May 31st, 2010

Is it possible that after a few bad experiences with local women, you are now considering the possibility of taking an overseas bride? Maybe you have a taste for adventure or are intrigued by what is unfamiliar. Whatever the reason, below are some answers to questions you may have.

1. Are overseas brides only for losers who can’t find partners in their own countries?

Of course not. It is an unfortunate truth that overseas brides sometimes attract the sorts of men that nobody back home wants, but they represent only a fraction of the men who choose overseas brides. Don’t forget that a couple of decades ago people considered “computer dating” to be a way for nerds to find dates – but today it has become a popular and accepted way to find a partner.

2. Are mail order brides all money hungry green card hounds?

Mostly not. Be careful of course – it IS a jungle out there. Just as loser men seek “mail order brides”, so do scamstresses see Western men as walking green cards (with luck they’ll all end up married to the losers). You should at least consider the services on an international matchmaking agency rather than going it alone on the free Internet sites, because if they’re reputable, then part of their fees go towards weeding out the scammers.

3. What do these women want, anyway?

The good ones want the same thing local women want -home, family, children, and love. As for the bad ones – well, need I even go into it? The point is that there are good ones out there.

4. Why are these women looking abroad for men?

A lot of reasons:

(i) They may be facing a life of poverty at home.

(ii) Their culture may relegate women to a low social status – after all, in some cultures a wife is considered little more than a maid / nanny / baby factory.

(iii) “Western guys look like movie stars” – I’m serious. Asia is the only part of the world where I get told I look like Mel Gibson. Well, we’re both white, but I’m fairly certain that’s about where the resemblance ends. But thanks anyway, Hollywood! .

(iv) It’s cold at home! If you were a Russian woman, wouldn’t you have to seriously consider a proposal from a man who lived in Orlando?

Russian dating

July 2nd, 2009

Modern as we are today, especially in the western countries, there are not much to be found of what we call long-term relationships or long-term commitment. With the modern lifestyle, men and women are already focused on their careers and other things rather than raising a family. They prefer the “no stings attached” relationships, but the pleasure it gives them is only temporary or superficial. But that’s the way some choose it to be. However, there are still men who seek stable, long-term, married life; enjoying their wife and children.

These men make the mail order bride work. They often are looking for women from other countries that share the same feelings as they are. Popular to western men are women or brides from Europe, particularly from Russia, Belarus, Ukraine and Georgia. Mail order bride has become a phenomenon. Success stories here and there; from agencies as well as from the actual people who had benefited from the services. However, before you are overwhelmed with these stories, a word of caution – investigate first before choosing. There are fakes as well as scams around. So, it is important to confirm the authenticity of information before you engage into a transaction.

Investigate and confirm. Do your own research, use our instincts and observe for signs of fraud. Sometimes, these scammers sense that you are desperate in your search and they would take advantage of this weakness. This is where they can start on you. So, be aware and be observant. There are a lot of ways to be scammed, like some girls just want to extort money from you, others would just use you as a vehicle to migrate or move to you country and many more. Here are some signs and also steps how to overcome or confirm authenticity of the information you are getting.

A picture was sent to you from a match. A scammer will send a picture of somebody else and not her. To counter this, you may request to chat using web cam. This would confirm if the picture and the one communicating to you is the same. Also, observe her responses when you request to communicate thru web cam. Another situation that you should note for is during a conversation after a while of communication with each other. She will express love and say many lovely things to you. However, you have to be very observant and vigilant when you discuss about money and visa. Feel if she is authentic or just using you. After several days or months of communication, scammers will storm you of fake stories like how she become broke, that her family cannot afford the basic necessities of living or even her family is urging her to marry a rich man to uplift their living conditions and other depressing stories. What’s the reason behind all these stories? She wants to get your sympathy and eventually gets you to send her financial support. Naturally, if you are already in an ongoing long distance relationship with her, you will be obliged or urged to do so, however, you need to really discern if she is telling the truth. Of course, all of us wants to help a person in need, however, do not be scammed. You want to show sincere feelings by helping, ensure also that she is really .

To start your search you may wish to try www.email2femail.com  the agency is run by an English guy living in St Petersburg